why i chose this path

i mean, someone needs to say it like it is. here’s why i’ve opted for a childfree life…

who i am – beyond the checklist

i’m meg. childfree by choice. a pet rescuer, a fierce believer that a woman’s worth is not tied to her womb, and someone who’s been judged, doubted, and misunderstood for saying no to motherhood.

this page? it’s my no-holds-barred truth about why i live this childfree lifestyle, the mess behind the scenes, and the freedom i’ve found in owning my choice.

i’d rather nurture animals than raise kids

  • my dogs don’t throw tantrums in public.
  • dedicating my life to animal rescue means my time and resources go where they’re needed most.
  • my pets are my family, and they love unconditionally without the teenage rebellion phase.
  • my dog, Bean, the night i rescued her from being ran over & left to die.

i refuse to conform to societal expectations

  • i’m not here to be a baby-making machine just because it’s ‘what you do.’
  • breaking free from the mold feels way better than fitting in.
  • i choose my happiness over society’s checklist.

i value my time, freedom, and sanity

  • spontaneous cafe hopping trump diaper duty any day.
  • i can focus on my passions without the constant distraction of child-rearing.
  • mental peace is priceless, and i guard it fiercely.

growing up “the babysitter”

in a filipino family, being the eldest means responsibility — not just the good kind. i was the automatic babysitter, the unpaid, unasked-for “ate” who had to sacrifice playtime and freedom to take care of cousins.

this “role” hijacked my childhood. it wasn’t a choice. it was an obligation rooted in utang na loob and expectation.

that experience? it planted a seed in me — parenting on someone else’s terms wasn’t for me.

society’s neverending checklist

“kailan ka mag-aasawa?” “kailan kayo magkakaanak?”

if you’re childfree, you know this game well. it’s like there’s a script we’re forced to follow — graduate, work, marry, pop out kids – or be branded kulang, selfish, or worse.

i spent years wrestling with that guilt and confusion, wondering if there was something wrong with me. spoiler alert: there wasn’t.

almost gave in (but didn’t)

once, caught in the whirlwind of love and family pressure, i almost said yes to kids. i tried — or at least, i pretended to try.

the negative pregnancy test was a quiet relief, but i hid that feeling. i felt i had to keep pretending.

later, after a diagnosis of pcos and endometriosis, i realized my body was just confirming my soul’s truth — motherhood was never meant for me.

what being childfree really means

being childfree by choice isn’t selfish or a phase. it’s radical self-awareness. it means owning your life on your terms, not someone else’s.

i respect mothers with every fiber of my being – their grit, sacrifice, and love are incredible. but just because i respect motherhood doesn’t mean i want it.

i’m a nurturer – but my love pours into rescued animals, friendships, passions, and myself. that’s enough for me.

calling out the stigma

people love to tell childfree women that they’re selfish, incomplete, or broken. the filipino culture especially shoves this down your throat.

but here’s the truth: you don’t owe anyone kids. you don’t owe anyone your body or your happiness.

choosing childfree is not less than. it’s a full, valid, and beautiful path.

to the women who want but can’t

if you’re here struggling to have kids, working through grief or acceptance, i see you. womanhood isn’t about childbirth.

you are whole. worthy. powerful. no matter what.

finding freedom in my choice

the day i stopped apologizing for being childfree was the day i truly found peace.

i’m not broken. i’m not missing out.

i’m living a life that fits me — full of love, purpose, and unapologetic joy.

let’s keep it real

this blog isn’t about trying to convince you or sell an idea.

it’s about sharing real stories, tough conversations, and building a community for childfree women who are tired of silence and judgment.

if you’re lurking on childfree reddit or r/childfree, you’ll feel right at home here – except i bring a filipino flavor and sharper edge.

finally, my invite to you

if you’re childfree by choice, or thinking about it, or just sick of the noise around this topic – stay a while. speak up. be unapologetically you.

this space is yours.

p.s: i have a whole ass episode about this on my podcast. 😉

my favorite quote

“Rather than pondering whether childfree women qualify as ‘real women’, perhaps the better question is why we are so hell-bent on forcing narrow and constricting rules on what makes a woman. Some women choose to be mothers. Others do not. Real women are whoever they wish to be.”

—Dr. Amy Blackstone, Author, Childfree by Choice: The Movement Redefining Family and Creating a New Age of Independence

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