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being childfree is not a trauma response (but so what if it was?)
every time i say i don’t want kids, someone asks, “what happened to you?” as if choosing a childfree lifestyle must be the result of some deep-seated trauma. but the thing is… even if it were, so what? why is it acceptable to have children as a means of healing, but choosing not to…
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“you’ll never know real love”—say that again and i’ll show you rage
i’ve lost count of how many times i’ve heard it: “you’ll never know real love until you have a child.” it’s usually said with a smug smile, as if they’ve just unlocked some secret level of human emotion that i, a childfree woman, couldn’t possibly comprehend. lmfaooo cool. so i guess everything i’ve felt,…
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the myth of ‘you’ll change your mind’: why some of us never do
society loves a good myth, doesn’t it? one of the biggest ones out there is the idea that anyone who chooses not to have kids will eventually “change their mind.” it’s a narrative we’ve heard a thousand times, from family gatherings to casual conversations with strangers. it’s rooted in the belief that parenthood is…