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being childfree is not a trauma response (but so what if it was?)
every time i say i don’t want kids, someone asks, “what happened to you?” as if choosing a childfree lifestyle must be the result of some deep-seated trauma. but the thing is… even if it were, so what? why is it acceptable to have children as a means of healing, but choosing not to…
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“you’ll never know real love”—say that again and i’ll show you rage
i’ve lost count of how many times i’ve heard it: “you’ll never know real love until you have a child.” it’s usually said with a smug smile, as if they’ve just unlocked some secret level of human emotion that i, a childfree woman, couldn’t possibly comprehend. lmfaooo cool. so i guess everything i’ve felt,…
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why i don’t need kids to feel complete: a love letter to my free time
childfree by choice. it’s a phrase that raises eyebrows, sparks debates, and sometimes invites judgment. but here’s the thing: i’ve never been one to follow the crowd. ever since i was a kid, the idea of having kids just never clicked. i’ve heard the whispers and side-eyes, felt the pressure from family and friends,…