here’s k, sharing why deciding to be childfree wasn’t just a teenage phase but a deeply personal stand shaped by real life – and why she’s still owning it at 30.
K’s story
i grew up in a household with five siblings. our parents barely made ends meet and relied a lot on relatives to help with our education. watching them struggle made one thing clear to me early on: i don’t want to bring another life into the world if i can’t provide a decent one.
my realization came when i was a teenager. i remember watching how i met your mother and seeing robin’s choice — how she took control of her body despite what society expected. that hit me hard. if she could choose, so could i.
sure, i’ve faced backlash, mostly from older folks telling me things like “sayang ang talino mo” or “ganda mo pa, di mo maipapamana.” i stopped engaging because honestly, they don’t understand. younger people and my peers are more open. i do engage when the conversation digs into the psychological and socioeconomic reasons behind the choice — that’s real talk i can get behind.
people often say, “you’ll change your mind.” my response? that’s the point — it’s my mind, and i’m the one making this decision. i haven’t changed it in 15 years, and i’m certain i won’t in the next 15.
the most annoying line i hear? exactly that — “you will change your mind.” it dismisses the thought and effort behind the decision, like i don’t have control over my own body.
society’s obsession with parenthood? it’s ridiculous to think a woman’s life only has meaning if she has children. i want to see society respect different life paths — so long as no harm is done, why can’t we just live our truth?
do i think people with kids are missing out? not at all. parenthood can be beautiful and fulfilling, and if that’s their choice, more power to them.
there’s this myth i want to bust: that childfree people will die alone. i don’t feel judged or excluded because my friends get it — they respect differences.
the best part of being childfree? honestly, it’s just regular life, and that’s enough for me. i love the freedom over my finances, the time to travel, attend concerts, and spoil my nieces rotten. my career has benefited too — no pressure of dependents means i can explore different paths without fear.
my days? simple — work, me time, sleep. no drama.
thinking about the future, i see a happy life filled with adventures shared with loved ones. as for who will take care of me when i’m old — i’ll manage, with my partner or by hiring help if needed. legacy? i just want to live happy, no pressure.
my advice to anyone considering being childfree: ignore the noise. listen to yourself and your own desires.
no regrets here.
and for a random fun fact — a normal nap for me is six hours. yep, six.
what this story hits home on
- choosing childfree was about control and protecting myself from repeating struggles
- ignoring dismissive comments is part of owning your choice
- being childfree means freedom — financial, emotional, and personal
childfree isn’t just a choice; it’s standing firm in what you know is right for you.
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