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childfree story: Anj on choosing peace over pain
here’s Anj, sharing why her decision to be childfree goes beyond choice – rooted in deep moral conviction and a clear-eyed view of life’s harsh realities. Anj’s story i’m 38, married, and work in PR here in the Philippines. i consider myself not just childfree but an antinatalist; i believe it’s morally wrong to…
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why “who will take care of you when you’re old?” is a garbage argument
i’ve lost track of how many times someone’s hit me with it: “but who’s going to take care of you when you’re old?” like opting out of parenthood is some wild, short-sighted move that guarantees i’ll rot alone in a nursing home. let’s be honest, that question isn’t about concern. it’s a guilt trip…
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being childfree is not a trauma response (but so what if it was?)
every time i say i don’t want kids, someone asks, “what happened to you?” as if choosing a childfree lifestyle must be the result of some deep-seated trauma. but the thing is… even if it were, so what? why is it acceptable to have children as a means of healing, but choosing not to…
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“you’ll never know real love”—say that again and i’ll show you rage
i’ve lost count of how many times i’ve heard it: “you’ll never know real love until you have a child.” it’s usually said with a smug smile, as if they’ve just unlocked some secret level of human emotion that i, a childfree woman, couldn’t possibly comprehend. lmfaooo cool. so i guess everything i’ve felt,…
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parents vs. childfree: who is really selfish?
we live in a world where choices about having kids or not are heavily scrutinized. parents are often seen as selfless, sacrificing their lives for the next generation. on the other hand, childfree individuals get slapped with the “selfish” label for choosing to live without kids. but who’s really selfish? let’s tear apart these…
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10 ways to pamper yourself as childfree
it’s august, and the back-to-school chaos is in full swing. while parents are knee-deep in school supplies and carpool schedules, those of us who are childfree by choice get to savor the freedom we’ve embraced. let’s talk about why we’re unapologetically thriving, especially during this hectic season, and how we can pamper ourselves in…
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maternity leave envy: let’s talk about unfair workplace perks
maternity leave envy is real. there, i said it. as a childfree employee, i can’t help but notice the glaring discrepancies in workplace perks. while my friends who are parents enjoy extended leaves and flexible schedules, i’m left wondering why my choices are less valued. it’s time to have an honest conversation about the…
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facing judgment: how to stand your ground in a pronatalist world
if you’re tired of defending your choice to be childfree in a world obsessed with reproduction, you’re not alone. welcome to the club of those who’ve chosen a different path—one that doesn’t involve diapers, sleepless nights, or the inevitable question, “when are you having kids?” no uterus, no opinion: shutting down baby-pushers with science…
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when baby fever meets baby never: how to handle the ultimate relationship deal-breaker
relationships are tricky enough without throwing babies into the mix. it’s a whole new level of complicated when one person wants to hear the pitter-patter of tiny feet, and the other is more into the sound of silence. as someone who has friends stuck in this exact dilemma, i feel like it’s my duty…
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dear parents, why my childfree life doesn’t mean i hate yours
i know what you’re thinking: why is a childfree person writing a letter to us? isn’t this just going to be another rant about how awful parenthood is? well, let me stop you right there. this is not about bashing your choices or lifestyle. in fact, i have immense respect for you and what…